Have you ever wondered on the purpose of relationship? “The purpose of relationship is not to have another who might complete you, but to have another with whom you might share your completeness.” ~ Neale Donald Walsch
Every relationship you have with every person you have ever come in contact with has only one purpose, the purpose to show you different parts of your own infinite potential. Relationships are mirrors, to see parts of ourselves that only a mirror can show us.
The difficulty comes when you try to find yourself and who you are within the other person of a relationship. Relationships are designed for each individual to look within and see more there then what was originally thought. Most people put so much imprecise on the relationship that they forget to go within Self to determine what is true for them and in doing so they make the other person in control of how they feel, what they are willing to see, and how to define who they are.
The relationship then becomes about what the other person thinks, says, and does rather then what you think, feel, and say about yourself. The greatest experience and purpose in all of life is to decide and choose who you are but most people leave that deciding to the people they are in a relationship with. It becomes an obsession of needing relationships to determine who you are.
The solution to this dilemma is to have a relationship first with yourself. The challenge for most people is when they ask the question, "who am I?" and try to get to know themselves from that starting question then they are confronted with a endless possibility of infinite hugeness. That question is so infinitely enormous that the answer cannot be found, save to identify with the saying "I am that I am". Consequently, the way past this challenge is to begin to move your consciousness and focus within yourself. Know who you are from the inner core of yourself. Ask the question, "who do I choose to be?" and get to know the greatest parts of you, identify within you the essentials that people call compassion, happiness, confidence, wisdom, and sharing. Choose to be the empowering states like the spiritual, inspiring, patient, gentleness, magnificence, and most important of all discover the place inside you that accepts and loves you for everything that you are.
Your true essence and who you really are, is in being unconditional loving and you cannot love another without first knowing love within yourself. Quite often people seek out relationships in order to feel loved and in doing so determine if they deserve love by how others show them love. The most power gift one can give to themselves and everyone else is to love themselves unconditionally. This gift is perhaps the most powerful gift of life. Knowledge is power but knowledge with unconditional love is the greatest power in the universe. It is not difficult to love yourself once you find the greatest parts of yourself that were mentioned in the above paragraph and everyone has these parts within them because everyone is infinitely everything. Therefore, know yourself as these great parts and act accordantly to those things. In other words do not try to seek out, discover and find these great things within you, only know they are there through your Universal Knowledge (ringing truth) of everything and perform the thoughts, words and actions that best determine your joy in that moment. It does not have to be a long drawn-out process in order to find the greatness within you; just know your own greatness through your understanding that we are all infinite.
Yet do not be caught in the label of these things but rather the feelings that create joyous actions. For example if you label yourself 'spiritual' then you do not want to live life through that label because if something rises that does not fit into that image then you would have to deny it, reject it, defend it or suppress it on one way or another. Let us say that the feelings of anger and thoughts of anger came through you. If you labeled yourself 'spiritual' then you might express thoughts similar to, "I should not be feeling this anger. I am spiritual, and anger should not be a part of me anymore". You do not allow certain things to flow through you since you have a label. Yet when you love yourself unconditionally then you allow everything since you realize that you must Be love and you are this State of Being known as unconditional love and who you really are is only this natural State of Beingness called love. Anything else that flows through you is only a conditioned state. The conditioned states is not who you actually are, that is why you are liberated to allow them.
When you know your greatness and love yourself unconditionally then you have no reason to seek relationships to determine who you are and if you deserve love. Instead, you will use relationships as tool to seeing more of you to create, express, and experience greater aspects of yourself. Once you realize your own infiniteness then you understand that you are already whole and complete then you begin to use relationships to share your completeness with someone rather then seeking out another to complete you. You will then honor yourself and honor other people because you will see the greatness within them as well. In fact, everything you see in another, will always be what you see within yourself. This is a very difficult thing to admit to yourself at first since there are systems in our world that are designed to condition us to think outside ourselves. You will treat everybody with unconditional love once you know your own unconditional love because everyone 'outside' yourself is you. (For a better understanding of what I mean please read this article. Yet I will speak more on this in upcoming articles.) Consequently, you will start treating all relationships and people as the beings of infinite magnificent greatness that they are. Problems in relationships dissolve at this point since you recognize that relationships are a mirror to see greater versions of yourself.
In the next article, there will be more on how to use relationships as mirrors to dissolve problems from every human relationship experience.
How to Dissolve Problems in Human Relationships
Mastering Unconditional Love in Relationships
Growth through Practicing Unconditional Love: Parenting
Growth through Practicing Unconditional Love: Consciousness
Relationship between Consciousness & Reality
Every relationship you have with every person you have ever come in contact with has only one purpose, the purpose to show you different parts of your own infinite potential. Relationships are mirrors, to see parts of ourselves that only a mirror can show us.
The difficulty comes when you try to find yourself and who you are within the other person of a relationship. Relationships are designed for each individual to look within and see more there then what was originally thought. Most people put so much imprecise on the relationship that they forget to go within Self to determine what is true for them and in doing so they make the other person in control of how they feel, what they are willing to see, and how to define who they are.
The relationship then becomes about what the other person thinks, says, and does rather then what you think, feel, and say about yourself. The greatest experience and purpose in all of life is to decide and choose who you are but most people leave that deciding to the people they are in a relationship with. It becomes an obsession of needing relationships to determine who you are.
The solution to this dilemma is to have a relationship first with yourself. The challenge for most people is when they ask the question, "who am I?" and try to get to know themselves from that starting question then they are confronted with a endless possibility of infinite hugeness. That question is so infinitely enormous that the answer cannot be found, save to identify with the saying "I am that I am". Consequently, the way past this challenge is to begin to move your consciousness and focus within yourself. Know who you are from the inner core of yourself. Ask the question, "who do I choose to be?" and get to know the greatest parts of you, identify within you the essentials that people call compassion, happiness, confidence, wisdom, and sharing. Choose to be the empowering states like the spiritual, inspiring, patient, gentleness, magnificence, and most important of all discover the place inside you that accepts and loves you for everything that you are.
Your true essence and who you really are, is in being unconditional loving and you cannot love another without first knowing love within yourself. Quite often people seek out relationships in order to feel loved and in doing so determine if they deserve love by how others show them love. The most power gift one can give to themselves and everyone else is to love themselves unconditionally. This gift is perhaps the most powerful gift of life. Knowledge is power but knowledge with unconditional love is the greatest power in the universe. It is not difficult to love yourself once you find the greatest parts of yourself that were mentioned in the above paragraph and everyone has these parts within them because everyone is infinitely everything. Therefore, know yourself as these great parts and act accordantly to those things. In other words do not try to seek out, discover and find these great things within you, only know they are there through your Universal Knowledge (ringing truth) of everything and perform the thoughts, words and actions that best determine your joy in that moment. It does not have to be a long drawn-out process in order to find the greatness within you; just know your own greatness through your understanding that we are all infinite.
Yet do not be caught in the label of these things but rather the feelings that create joyous actions. For example if you label yourself 'spiritual' then you do not want to live life through that label because if something rises that does not fit into that image then you would have to deny it, reject it, defend it or suppress it on one way or another. Let us say that the feelings of anger and thoughts of anger came through you. If you labeled yourself 'spiritual' then you might express thoughts similar to, "I should not be feeling this anger. I am spiritual, and anger should not be a part of me anymore". You do not allow certain things to flow through you since you have a label. Yet when you love yourself unconditionally then you allow everything since you realize that you must Be love and you are this State of Being known as unconditional love and who you really are is only this natural State of Beingness called love. Anything else that flows through you is only a conditioned state. The conditioned states is not who you actually are, that is why you are liberated to allow them.
When you know your greatness and love yourself unconditionally then you have no reason to seek relationships to determine who you are and if you deserve love. Instead, you will use relationships as tool to seeing more of you to create, express, and experience greater aspects of yourself. Once you realize your own infiniteness then you understand that you are already whole and complete then you begin to use relationships to share your completeness with someone rather then seeking out another to complete you. You will then honor yourself and honor other people because you will see the greatness within them as well. In fact, everything you see in another, will always be what you see within yourself. This is a very difficult thing to admit to yourself at first since there are systems in our world that are designed to condition us to think outside ourselves. You will treat everybody with unconditional love once you know your own unconditional love because everyone 'outside' yourself is you. (For a better understanding of what I mean please read this article. Yet I will speak more on this in upcoming articles.) Consequently, you will start treating all relationships and people as the beings of infinite magnificent greatness that they are. Problems in relationships dissolve at this point since you recognize that relationships are a mirror to see greater versions of yourself.
In the next article, there will be more on how to use relationships as mirrors to dissolve problems from every human relationship experience.
How to Dissolve Problems in Human Relationships
Mastering Unconditional Love in Relationships
Growth through Practicing Unconditional Love: Parenting
Growth through Practicing Unconditional Love: Consciousness
Relationship between Consciousness & Reality
