One of the most obvious observations one will make when looking within oneself is the conscious self that causes one to interact with others. The determining factor in how you interact with others will be based on your perspective (viewpoint/ mind-set) of the relationship world, who you choose to be (in The Purpose of Human Relationships it explains how) and in turn will decide how the relationship world will interact with you.
Most often than not people will reach the conclusion of how to interact with relationships by how the relationship world interacts with them but that only creates and recreates the same perspective over and over again which is usually a negative perspective and in turn creates problems.
For example, if you are receiving negative feedback through the interaction of a relationship and decide to react based on the interaction itself then you will only be creating more negative feedback by adopting that relationship interaction perspective.
Our perspectives on life will enhance or disadvantage who we choose to be. The perspective we hold as our reality will always give the illusion that it is the one and only perspective, unless you hold a perspective that it is not the one and only. To dissolve relationship problems one must adopt a perspective that is equal to the desired impact. The most effective perspective to adopt would be the perspective that relationships are mirrors of self and in doing so you will be lead to the exact source of every problem that ever exists and ever will exist in any human relationship.
The first step will lead you to look within yourself to choose who you decide to be (the last article details how to do that) and the second step it will lead you to the relationship mind-set that always has one of two conclusions.
1. Your are receiving a reflection of your own mind-set perspective.
2. You are receiving the perspective mind-set of another being reflected to you through the filter of your own perspective.
To identify with this lets use some examples based on both positive feedback and negative feedback:
Positive Feedback from Number One
I often get strangers opening up to me in such a subconscious way that they are surprised at the interaction we have with each other. I usually hear something to the liking of, "wow, I never told anybody that before" or "not many people know that about me" and I do not have to say a word for this interaction to occur. The reason people even complete strangers connect with me this way is because I hold a perspective mind-set that is nonjudgmental do what anybody thinks, says, and does plus I have a natural unconditional loving nature to everyone in the world (please read the last article to relate to where that mind-set comes from). Subconsciously or not people can pick-up on the perspective mind-set because it is a connection that is beyond words, actions and body language. It is a connection on every level of Being, emotional, mental and intermingle of consciousnesses. At this level, the receiving transfer of information about individuals' accesses and the picking up of thoughts, emotions and energy of person bonds through an understanding that we are all connected.
Negative Feedback from Number One
Just recently, many people around me have been talking about the experience of their loved one(s) passing and I subconsciously stumbled upon unresolved grieving of a loved one that had passed in my life a few years back. Unaware of my actions on a subconscious level, I was giving my friends alternatives and putting conditional restrictions onto the friendships. I was unconsciously doing this out of fear of feeling the same pain of a loved one passing. I received negative feedback from several of my friends and because I use this model to determine my relationships with others. I first honestly decided if the negative feedback I was receiving was a result of number one or two and I recognized it to be of number one (receiving a reflection of my own mind-set perspective) then I consciously asked myself where it was coming from and at which point it started.
Positive Feedback from Number Two
Here is where it gets difficult to decode and decipher from because it ends up being one in the same thing. If you are in low mind-set and someone in a higher mind-set perspective interacts with you then you receive his or her mind-set perspective through your own reflection but you can not receive it unless you see it as your own to begin with. In other words, it does not matter what mind-set perspective you have since you always have the ability to see others mind-set as your own. You have this ability because in a larger sense, every feedback (negative or positive) is your own mind-set mirrored back to you and no matter your mindset perspective; you always have the ability to affect everyone else in the world as well.
Negative Feedback from Number Two
Every once in a great while I get negative feedback to the articles I write. Usually the negative feedback has nothing to do with the articles themselves but a response to me as a person. For example, something close to "you're just a selfish fool" and already going through the first step of choosing who I am and knowing who I really am, (read the last article for more information) I take this feedback as my responsibility.
There is a doctor named Dr. Joe Vitale who heals patients without ever seeing them in person. Dr. Joe Vitale heals them by healing the part of his Self that created them in the first place. He takes the responsibility of creating not only his life but also everyone in it including everything he sees, hears, tastes, touches, or in any way experiences, because he realizes that there is no out there. In other words, when I receive negative feedback it is still part of my consciousness and reality. When I take responsibility for all of reality then I give myself the power to change anything within reality. It is the meaning or reason you give this for being in your consciousness and reality is what will determine the difference of how it will change.
The meaning I give the negative feedback is the meaning that a part of me has forgotten who I really am. I now have the opportunity to remind myself and grow even more. Every attack is a cry from love since our natural state of Being is unconditional love. If someone takes the time to reflect themselves to me through their cry for love, then most of the times I will reflect back to them the truth of who they really are. Other times I will leave them alone to allow them to help themselves, sometimes the best way you can love somebody is to empower them to help themselves. When they are ready, they will see the truth of who they really are since the universe operates in such perfection that no matter what you do, nothing will happen outside the plan of perfection. Yet you always have the opportunity to choose whom you will be in using relationship to see more of you to create, express, and experience greater aspects of yourself.
The Purpose of Human Relationships
Mastering Unconditional Love in Relationships
Growth through Practicing Unconditional Love: Parenting
Growth through Practicing Unconditional Love: Consciousness
Relationship between Consciousness & Reality