When faced with any difficulty of life, resolve it by following these four steps: face it, accept it, deal with it and let it go.
~ Chan Master Sheng Yen
To complain is always nonacceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself into a victim. When you speak out, you are in your power. So change the situation by taking action or by speaking out if necessary or possible; leave the situation or accept it. All else is madness.